“an enemy is really your guru, your teacher.”

Ella Wheeler Wilcox sings in her 1908 collection of poems titled “Poems of Cheer”:

“Thank Fate for foes! I
hold mine dear
As valued friends.”

In “How to Expand Love: Widening the Circle of Loving Relationships” (translated by Jeffrey Hopkins), the Dalai Lama tells us of how our lives are benefitted by the “unintended kindness of others.” The sage teaches us that “an enemy is really your guru, your teacher.”


The enemy helps us cultivate “patience….forbearance….true love and compassion.” The enemy creates circumstances that encourage us to cultivate “courage” and other qualities that enable us to face life “without….breakdown.”

In Eiji Yoshikawa’s “Musashi: Way of Life and Death” (translated by Charles Terry), the novel about the legendary swordsman-philosopher, Miyamoto Musashi, we read the swordsman muse, after an attempt on his life: “Enemies were teachers in disguise.”

Peace 😊