It’s been a time of transition for me for the past 5 months or so. And it’s looking like it will be a while before it passes. I think that life is a constant series of transitions and it is entirely possible that I am just now awakening to it. Choosing to truly live in the moment has made me notice the transitions and now I’m being intentional in them. These are thoughts about a few things I’ve been thinking about and changing.

Dreams and goals

Changing dreams to goals and writing them down so that I hold myself accountable. Recently my dreams have moved from living in my head to being goals that I’ve written down. This was scary at first, still is sometimes when I read them every month or so. But it’s helpful and encouraging because every month I see myself getting closer to what I wrote down. It also serves as navigation of some sort when choosing opportunities to engage with. Does this align with my goals? If not, then NO. 

“… Write the vision

And make it plain on tablets,

That he may run who reads it.” – Habakkuk 2:2

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Friendship

I chanced upon a blogger who said, ‘when you find yourself alone and seeking friendship, ponder on the ones you already have and intentionally choose new ones if you need to.’ Transitions come with change in stature, mindsets, jobs, geographical location, and many other things. These thrust us continuously into new spaces with new faces, some of whom become our close friends. (One transition after another) Another transition inevitably comes by and those that were close are overtaken by the new faces. 

I’ve learnt and still learning not to pick friends based on circumstances or proximity. Does God want me to walk with this person in friendship? Prayerful selection means I’m not just making friends but establishing divine connections. I’ve found that no matter how extreme the transition, God will always give me people.

“… the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.” – 1 Samuel 18:1

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“The man of too many friends [chosen indiscriminately] will be broken in pieces and come to ruin, But there is a [true, loving] friend who [is reliable and] sticks closer than a brother.” – Proverbs 18:24

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Writing, blogging, social media

Part of beginning to write again has been reading through my past writing and thinking, ‘who is this?’ followed by the immediate desire to delete. Then walking back that thought after reading a few more posts because reading through them, I can see my progression. The progression between how I used to think before and how I think now. And all I can say is glory to God for the ongoing maturity and growth. I know that whatever I put out, an article or an image will be in line with the stage I’m at. And I’ll always be proud when I look back.

Comparison

We are given choices in life. When the society in which we live deems that we are adults, we are finally given the chance to decide. To decide whether to study, what to study, how to spend our time, and with whom and so on. We get to decide how we want our life to turn out based on our daily decisions. So why then do we compare ourselves to people who have made entirely different choices? Granted some choices have already been made for us by those who came before us, these choices still remain entirely different from ones made for another.

Take some time to think about this scripture. The Lord has wisdom for EVERYTHING, even what we think to be so mundane as we go through the transitions of life

“Give ear and hear my voice,

Listen and hear my speech.

Does the plowman keep plowing all day to sow?

Does he keep turning his soil and breaking the clods?

When he has leveled its surface,

Does he not sow the black cummin

And scatter the cummin,

Plant the wheat in rows,

The barley in the appointed place,

And the spelt in its place?

For He instructs him in right judgment,

His God teaches him.

For the black cummin is not threshed with a threshing sledge,

Nor is a cartwheel rolled over the cummin;

But the black cummin is beaten out with a stick,

And the cummin with a rod.

Bread flour must be ground;

Therefore he does not thresh it forever,

Break it with his cartwheel,

Or crush it with his horsemen.

This also comes from the Lord of hosts,

Who is wonderful in counsel and excellent in guidance. – Isaiah 28:23-28

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